Book Review: Sorry I’m Late, I didn’t want to come: An introvert’s year of living dangerously by Jessica Pan

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Sorry I’m Late, I Didn’t Want to Come: An Introvert’s Year of Living Dangerously by Jessica Pan

My rating: 4 of 5 stars



I found this book super entertaining and funny! I really enjoyed the style of the writer and the awkward situations she gets into to, trying to leave her comfort zone! She goes through highs and lows as she tries to establish new friendships, in a country and city where she didn’t grow up, and were people pretty much are known for minding their own business.

This is a light read and it made me literally laugh out loud from time to time! I think this book relates to me as I had to go through some personal processes and experiences to overcome shyness and an introverted personality. I think I learned how to be extroverted when needed because of survival!

I totally recommend it, plus it’s making me think that maybe I should try to get myself out of my comfort zone a little since more and more friends move out of the area where I currently live. I do miss the Toastmasters group for example, where I met not only super nice people but such an interesting mix of all types of personalities. Ahh change is the only constant!







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Book Review: Between Two Kingdoms by Suleika Jaouad

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Between Two Kingdoms: A Memoir of a Life Interrupted by Suleika Jaouad

My rating: 5 of 5 stars

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I had no idea what this book was about and it’s not light!

I started to read this book a few months ago and I got to a part where I couldn’t continue. It was too sad and I decided to stop and switch to other books. I bumped into it again in audio book and decided to try again. The author reads the book herself, and its really well written. She goes through through really sick times when at age 22 and after feeling a well for a while the doctors discover it’s a type of cancer. The books has 2 parts. Part 1 is when she was finishing college, feeling well and when she decides to move out of NY. She finds a job in Paris and her boyfriend which she just met in the big apple follows her to France. After a few months there she gets very sick and has to go back to USA. There is a lot that happens during this time, in the medical sense, but also in her relationships.

Part 2 is after she gets her surgery done and gets well, she decides to do a road trip and details this part of her new life as a survivor. She closes the book saying she wouldn’t change a thing if she could go back.

I couldn’t stop listening, and I am glad I decided to give it a try again. The book came out in Feb 2021, and through google I found out the author had a relapse back in Nov. She had another surgery earlier this year and I hope she is recovering well. She uses art as a way of healing! Rooting for her.



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Buy Nothing!

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A few years ago I read in a book about some groups called Buy Nothing Groups. I found one of this groups in FB and it has been really cool to see how this one in particular works. I have not used any other groups so I can only speak about this one. The idea is that neighbors that live geographically close by can post items onto the wall of the group that they won’t be using anymore and will be donating to GoodWill. Then the other neighbors can reply and say hey I am interested in that chair, or poster, or pants, jewelry, etc, there are lots of items. If there are a few people interested the original owner can decide who the item goes to, and then they coordinate pick up etc.

I see the group activity is particularly busy towards the end of the month since the pandemic, when lots of people move out, and they are trying to get rid of lots of stuff.

In this group there are a few Admins and moderators and there is one lady that is particularly active, she is basically the glue of the group and along with her other admins, they keep the group running smoothly, keeping things orderly, they have some rules set up and for what I have seen they run a nice community group. They even organize in person events to swap things but I have not made it to one of those but one time during later part of the pandemic they organized a onesie get together at the park, and I did make it because it was the perfect opportunity to use my pink care bear onesie! That was such a cute event and some Pikachu’s showed up! 😄

I have posted some items on the group and people have claimed them and I have picked up a few items in there as well. During the pandemic, lots of puzzles were passed around the neighborhood and that was super fun!

A few weeks ago some friends proposed a trip to the river so we can float down the stream and have a warm summer day outside of the fog! I, of course, am interested! We need to get floaty devices and that was one thing I didn’t want to spend money on since most likely it will be a one time thing and who knows when I would be doing the same activity.

I decided to try out the Buy nothing group and posted a ISO/Borrow post with a picture of a floating device to see if someone out there would be willing to lend me one. I got 3 answers from the ladies, and funny enough, one of the ladies recognized me because we used to take our daughters to swim class when they were little and they were in the guppy class! Ohhh so sweet. I don’t have this lady in my FB friends and her last name was sort of cryptic, plus she doesn’t have a picture of herself in the profile, but I still knew who she was with her name and the swim memory! How funny!

One of the friends that is going with me to the river, asked if I could get some for her, so now we have 3 floaties available and I am hoping all goes well because of course if they get damaged we will have to find replacements, but at least we are trying not to buy more plastic stuff for realistically very low use.

I recommend you look for these groups in your area. I know some people don’t even want to be on FB at all, but some of the groups and community forums could be quite useful and informative!

I know we are getting a unicorn shape floaty, a donut, and the third one is unspecified, so not sure what shape it will be, but I am so thankful for the power of this type of groups!

I searched for a few floaties and this came up, the crab one is so funny! Cherio!

Mimos para el corazón!

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Otra forma de expresar gratitud al Universo!

Finding a glittery heart on your daily walk!

Estos son algunos momentos que siento como mimos para el corazón, y para el alma!

-La video-llamada con tu novio cuando viven lejos.

-Cuidar a la perrita de tu amiga mientras viaja, y darte cuenta que es una ternurita y te creció un cariño muy grande por ese ser de cuatro patas.

-Hacer una mini ensalada de frutas con durazno, nectarina, y banano y comértela despacio en una tarde de verano, mientras la brisa pasa y su caricia te refresca!

-LLamada con tu amiga que no ves hace un buen tiempo.

-Reir con el último podcast de Glennon Doyle (We can do hard things) donde hablan de sus momentos más vergonzosos.

-Visitar a mi hija en su universidad y ver todo lo que ha madurado y aprendido!

-Las flores, el sol, las ardillas, los arboles, y los paisajes de este planeta que es nuestra casa!

-Una ducha con agua calientica y sientes que te quita una carga de tu espalda, sales renovado!

-Una canción bonita.

-Ver que #WordPress agregó colores para editar tus textos! ❤

Hay muchos más pero por hoy voy a dejar aquí.

My week with Luna, the cutest 4 legged beast!

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I have never had a dog. My grandma had dogs, and I would hang out at her house quite a bit, but they were not mine. My sisters and friends have dogs, and there was an ex boyfriend who had a beautiful mutt dog I fell in love with, she was a sweetie!

A couple of weeks ago, I was catching up with my dear friend C and she mentioned she had a trip coming up and she was still trying to coordinate who was going to stay with her Rottweiler Luna! She had someone lined up but then they cancelled and she was trying to find someone urgently. Then, sort of joking but not, she asked me: would you want to stay here for a week and make company to Luna? I started to consider the idea and asked, what do I have to do. She showed me how she prepares her food, and then we went on a walk so I could see what she needed.

The neighborhood is nice and there are lots of trees, there are also a few parks nearby! I told her ok I think I can do it, she even offered to get someone to walk her but I have to do my steps anyway so I told her I could do it.

Luna gets really excited and a bit nutty if she sees cats or skateboarders, so that’s when I had to watch out the most and use all of my strength. Luna is about 60 pounds, thankfully not as big as Rottweilers can get, but still pretty big! And sometimes cats would show up out of nowhere, or skate boarders, so that was a bit scary, but also kept me on my toes during our walks, I think I double my steps as well. I also had to pick up her poop, which was not small, but it was actually fine and I always had extra bags just in case, and of course some treats!

My week with Luna is coming to an end tomorrow, as my friends will return from their trip. I had a great week with Lunita, and even though my friend asked me to be company for Luna, she was such great company for me! I am going to miss her! Thanks Luna, C and J, for trusting me! It was such an honor and Luna is a cutie pie, and maybe one day I will have my own little beast to take on walks! I now know for sure that I would love to!

My friend, I admire you!

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My friend K, let’s call her KK for the story, is what people call, a good egg! We don’t see each other as often as I would like, but life and its dynamics is sort of like that sometimes!

I have known this friend for a few years now, she is a very sweet lady, from the motherland as well, but from a different city than mine. When I met her, she was living with 3 other roommates in a big old victorian house near the Haight. We met at through friends, possibly in a soccer match, but I can’t exactly recall, I just remember we got along from the start!

She would throw some parties from time to time and she was specially excited about Halloween! Or Bay to breakers, or any occasion that was about dressing up!

My friend is a psychologist and she has had jobs in different institutions. One time she was working for an elderly institution where they had programs for people in their later part of life to stay active, do group activities, learn new skills or practice the ones they already had, dance, make art, gardening, some of them were hairdressers and helped the other ones look nice, etc. One time I was able to volunteer there during Thanksgiving as they would throw a big lunch for them and needed the help. It was cute!

When my friend turned 35, she started to get antsy about her life status, she wasn’t happy about having to live with roommates, she wanted to be in a relationship, she wanted to grow the relationship and eventually (but not too much later) marry and have kids. She wanted what lots of women want, and I am aware some may not want these same things, but let’s say she felt the clock ticking and felt the pressure of those windows starting to get more narrow, she felt the itch to change, in a very acute way.

She really got down to work on changing her life around. First thing she did is that she looked and looked and looked and finally found a place by ocean avenue for her, just her, no roommates! What a way to move the energy! She moved out and then she started to look for other jobs, she found a nice job in the peninsula, and she was very excited for this career change as she felt she was in need of a new experience.

Soon after she met a guy, they hit it off, they both like soccer and enjoy watching games! Actually, I think their first date was at a bar where there was a Volombian match and seems liked they enjoyed themselves because they are still together. They ended up tying the knot, with some delays because of the pandemic, but they managed to do it, and then soon after my friend enrolled in a master’s program in clinical psychology, plus she got a little bébe on the way!

Baby was born and she was still doing her master’s and she really applied herself, and she sort of disappear, and from time to time she would resurface in social media, but not very often, which totally makes sense, since she was juggling so much stuff!

This week she posted the happy news and photos of her graduation from the master’s, baby in arms and husband by her side! Talk about efficiency in manifesting your destiny! I am sure that doing the master and being a new mom was not an easy walk in the park.

I really admire my friend(let’s call her KK for this story) and feel so happy and so proud of her to manage all of the changes in her life and to be able to accomplish all of her dreams! A true example of conscious manifestation and intentional action to get there! Well done KK! I can’t wat to see what comes next!

Kk, thanks for being such an inspiration and I wish you all the best in the new chapters that are coming for you! Sending you HUGS!

Reseña del Libro: Cómo Maté a mi Padre por Sara Jaramillo Klinkert.

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Cómo maté a mi padre by Sara Jaramillo Klinkert

My rating: 5 of 5 stars



Este librito se lee en dos sentadas, o en mi caso fue así. Hubiera sido en una pero me toco parar por fuerza mayor y porque los deberes llaman. La forma de escribir de la autora me gustó mucho. El libro tiene muchos recuerdos tristes, melancólicos y mucha nostalgia, y pues no es para menos.

Mientras leía me llegaron algunos recuerdos de momentos en mi país, aunque nada de lo que le pasa a ella, me paso a mí, pero sera el contexto de compartir el mismo país, algunos sentimientos que describe, y definitivamente la obsesión por mario bros y el nintendo, el antojo por el mecato que a veces añoro, y el amor por la libertad.

Definitivamente fue un ejercicio de autocuidado y muy terapéutico para la escritora, ojalá haya sido muy sanador.

Lo recomiendo con la advertencia que no es para nada light. El final me gustó y me impactó el penúltimo cuento.

ps: agradecimientos a mi papá por prestarme su libro autografiado por la autora misma!



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Funny Dreams

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Photo by Egor Vikhrev on Unsplash

Ok, most dreams are really strange, and don’t make a lot of sense, although sometimes they are related to something or someone you saw that day, or maybe the topic or the name of the person came up in conversation.

But sometimes, there are the really funny dreams that sort of come out of nowhere, like the character in my dream this early am!

Sometimes I wake up in the middle of the night to go to the bathroom, but usually I get back to sleep. Last night this happened and in my early dream the following happened:

My birthday is coming up in a couple of days, this is true, so nothing out of the ordinary here, I have been thinking about it and yesterday I got a gift in the mail from my sister! In the dream, it was my birthday and I was “at work” (although the place didn’t look anything like my work place). In the dream I walked over to my desk, and on top of it there was a box with a cake from my sister, from a place that was famous for their cakes where I grew up. The cake was chocolate and round, and had candles on top. Someone had taken it out of the box and there was also a note.

Then I walked over to some other area, and I saw some friend from high school and I would tell them there was this cake and they needed to come and help me. But then in that area, there was another cake waiting for me, this time it was a big cake, in a rectangle shape, like the ones from costco, and I was like I can’t eat all of these cakes, I need to give some away. Then, my boss showed up, and I was asking her how could I give that big cake to other people, because it was too much! The hilarious thing is that my boss was the one and only Oprah Winfrey, and she said, “Oh, it depends who do you pay”! What!!!

Then I walked over to some other area, and I saw some friend from high school and I would tell them there was this cake and they needed to come and help me. But then in that area, there was another cake waiting for me, this time it was a big cake, in a rectangle shape, like the ones from costco, and I was like I can’t eat all of these cakes, I need to give some away. Then, my boss showed up, and I was asking her how could I give that big cake to other people, because it was too much! The hilarious thing is that my boss was the one and only Oprah Winfrey, and she said, “Oh, it depends who do you pay”! What!!! 😆

I mean, Oprah was super unexpected, although I love the idea, but I don’t know how I summoned her up into my dreams. I think shortly after that I woke up and was sleepy but laughing about the whole ridiculous dream! Maybe she came into my dream because I have been listening to a lot of Brené Brown podcasts, but still it’s a bit of a stretch!

Now I wish this would really happen, imagine how fun would be to work with Oprah Winfrey! Thanks for the laugh Brain!

Book Review: Braving the Wilderness by Brené Brown

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Braving the Wilderness: The Quest for True Belonging and the Courage to Stand Alone by Brené Brown

My rating: 4 of 5 stars



Another great AudioBook read by the author and it’s not too long, 4 hours! I do think Brené is a very good communicator and she tries to give her examples from her own experiences, of course. Some of the quotes where she gathers strength from are wonderful:

“Do not think you can be brave with your life and your work and never disappoint anyone. It doesn’t work like that” – Oprah Winfrey

From her interview with Viola Davis:

“Viola Davis is the wilderness. I asked her if true belonging took the shape of a practice for her. She said, “Yes. Today, I live by a few simple rules:

I’m doing the best I can.
I will allow myself to be seen.
I apply the advice an acting coach gave me to all aspects of my life: Go further. Don’t be afraid. Put it all out there. Don’t leave anything on the floor.
I will not be a mystery to my daughter. She will know me and I will share my stories with her—the stories of failure, shame, and accomplishment. She will know she’s not alone in that wilderness.

“This is who I am.

“This is where I am from.

“This is my mess.

“This is what it means to belong to myself.”

You can see the whole segment here, it’s really good:
https://brenebrown.com/articles/2018/…

And:

“Hard back, soft front, wild heart”



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Book Review: The Clothing of Books by Jhumpa Lahiri

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The Clothing of Books by Jhumpa Lahiri

My rating: 4 of 5 stars


This tiny book was originally an essay Jhumpa Lahiri wrote for a writers festival in 2015.

I listened to the audio book, read by the author herself and I thought it was lovely, as usual with her writing. Jhumpa has a lovely voice and she is definitely one of my favorite writers. The audio only takes 1 hour which felt like a breeze after my last audio book that was 16 hours plus long.

While I was listening I thought about the phrase “don’t judge a book by its cover”, which I feel we do all the time, and of course not only with books, but we really should be careful. At least I know I have picked up books that pop up among others, drawn to them by their cover, at least a few times. And sometimes I am really surprised while I read them and find out I had a totally different idea in my head. I do think the book covers set an expectation in the reader and I thought it was so interesting she mentions Virginia Wolf collaborating with her sister on the selection of the covers for her books. The sister didn’t even read the books but Virginia Wolf would tell her the story.

Since I love visual art and illustration I think a beautiful cover would be the cherry on top of a good read. Still, I will try to remember we shouldn’t judge a book by its cover!

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