Book Review: Untamed by Glennon Doyle. 🐆

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Untamed by Glennon Doyle

My rating: 4 of 5 stars


About 4 people mentioned this book so I looked it up. There are good insights and learnings that the author has had through her life and she shares some of that, and also some of her views about how society has brainwashed men and women and how we admire more what is strong and tough and less what is weak and emotional, and how she has learned through a lot of pain and hard decisions to get free from the system and what she was programmed with. She was able to follow her heart and manifest a new reality for her and her family. Some highlights:

“As every architect or designer knows, there is a critical step between vision and reality. Before imagination becomes three-dimensional, it usually needs to become two-dimensional. It’s as though the unseen order needs to come to life one dimension at a time.
May the invisible order become visible.
May our dreams become our plans”

“Our next life will always cost us this one. If we are truly alive we are constantly losing who we just were, what we just built, what we just believed, what we just knew to be true.”

“We can do hard things”

“I love myself now. Self love means that I have a relationship with myself built on trust and loyalty. I trust myself to have my own back, so my allegiance is to the voice within. I’ll abandon everyone else’s expectations of me before I’ll abandon myself. I’ll disappoint everyone else before I disappoint myself. I’ll forsake all other before I’ll forsake myself. Me and myself: we are till death do us apart.”






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Book Review: The course of Love by Alain de Botton

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The Course of Love by Alain de Botton

My rating: 4 of 5 stars


Great insights about romanticism and a good story as an example of one couple’s relationship and how it evolves through time.

Some highlights:

“You are my best friend and I want to know and come to terms with your mind in all its weird byways. I will never be able to do or be everything you want, nor vice versa, but I’d like to think we can be the sort of people who will dare to tell each other who we really are. The alternative is silence and lies, which are the real enemies of love!”


“we don’t need to be constantly reasonable in order to have good relationships; all we need to have mastered is the occasional capacity to acknowledge with good grace that we may, in one or two areas, be somewhat insane.”

“Children may end up being the unexpected teachers of people many times their age, to whom they offer – through their exhaustive dependence, egoism, and vulnerability- and advanced education in a wholly new sort of love, one in which reciprocation is never jealously demanded or fractiously regretted and in which the true goal is nothing less than the transcendence of oneself for the sake of another.”

“Children teach us that love is, in its purest form, a kind of service. They teach us to give without expecting anything in return, simply because they need help badly -and we are in a position to provide it. “

“The child teaches the adult something else about love: that genuine love should involve a constant attempt to interpret with maximal generosity what might be going on, at any time, beneath the surface of difficult and unappealing behavior.”

“It’s not just children who are childlike. Adults, too, are -beneath the bluster- intermittently playful, silly, fanciful, vulnerable, hysterical, terrified, pitiful, and in search of consolation and forgiveness.”
“It’s a wonderful thing to live in a world where so many people are nice to children. It would be even better if we lived in one where we were a little nicer to the childlike sides of one another.”
“If parental kindness were enough, the human race would stagnate and in time die off. The survival of the species hinges on children eventually getting fed up and heading off into the world armed with hopes of finding more satisfying sources of excitement. In their moments of coziness, when the whole family is piled together on the big bed and the mood is one of tolerance and good humor, Rabih is aware that someday, in the not too distant future, all of this will end according to an edict of nature enacted by a most natural means: the tantrums and fury of adolescence. The continuation of families down the generation depends on the young ones’s eventually losing patience with their elders. It would be a tragedy if the four of them still wanted to lie here with with their limbs enlaced in another twenty-five years’ time.”

“An avoidant attachment style is marked by a strong desire to avoid conflict and to reduce exposure to the other when emotional needs have not been met. The avoidant person quickly presumes that others are keen to attach them and that they cannot be reasoned with. One just has to scape, pull up the drawbridge, and go cold. Regrettably, the avoidant party cannot normally explain their fearful and defensive pattern to their partner, so that the reasons behind their distant and absent behavior remain clouded and are easy to mistake for being uncaring and unengaged -when in fact the opposite is true: the avoidant party cares very deeply indeed, it is just that loving has come to feel far too risky.”

“Love is a skill, not just an enthusiasm.”

“Few in the world are ever simply nasty; those who hurt us are themselves in pain. The approrpiate response is hence never cynicism nor aggression but, at the rare moments one can manage, always love.”

“What has conveniently looked like a single relationship in fact sits across so many evolutions, disconnections, renegotiations, intervals of distance and, emotional homecoming that he has in truth gone through at least a dozen divorces and remarriages -just to the same person.”
“The romantic ideas are, a recipe for disaster, he is ready for marriage because -to being the list- he has given up on perfection. Pronouncing a lover “perfect” can only be a sign that we have failed to understand them.”

“We were all (necessarily) less that ideal parented”

“Choosing a person to marry is hence just a matter if deciding exactly what kind of suffering we want to endure rather than of assuming we have found a way to skirt the rules of emotional existence.”

“Enlightened romantic pessimism simply assumes that one person can’t be everything to another”
“There can only ever be a “good enough” marriage”

“He is ready for marriage because he is prepared to love rather than be loved.”
“The partner best suited to us is not the one who miraculously happens to share every taste but the one who can negotiate differences in taste with intelligence and good grace.”









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Book Review: The Power of Kabbalah: 13 Principles to overcome challenges and achieve fulfillment by Yehuda Berg

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The Power of Kabbalah: 13 Principles to Overcome Challenges and Achieve Fulfillment by Yehuda Berg

My rating: 4 of 5 stars


Re-read this book just now and I got a much better understanding. There is a lot to take from this little book and I feel I have done sufficient progress on my personal work in the last 2 years to get a better sense of the Kabbalah principles. This does not mean I am an expert as I realize there is a lot of work I need to continue to do and there is a lot of learning ahead.

Some notes:

“Love your neighbor as you love yourself”
“Those who embrace spiritual transformation – moving from reactive behavior to proactive- will dwell in a bubble of serenity, even though the world around them might collapse into rubble and ruin. The choice is ours”

“Ask a friend or someone you trust: Do you see a pattern where I repeatedly tend to get in my own way?”

“There is a law of cause and effect in this universe. What we put out is what we get back. “
“Any action, kind or unkind, sets in motion a chain reaction of effects”
“Those who dance were thought to be quite insane by those who could not hear the music – Angela Monet”
Desire is the essential quality of human nature>think of a newborn.

There is the 1%, our reality, and the 99%, a dimension in which we can initiate positive lasting change that also manifests in our 1% world.

We live in the classical world where everything seems normal, everything has shape, place and substance. However, at very small scales, the quantum world reigns and everything is strange and bizarre, defying common sense~ Professor Stuart Hameroff, MD.

“Dreams, visions, intuition, these are all moments of connection to the 99% realm where all information, wisdom, energy, fulfillment and light exist. Plato called this connection divine madness. Philosopher Nicholas of Cusa called it divine revelation. Mozart described it as a rush. Philosopher and Mathematician Edmund Husserl called it pure intuition. We call it:
A mother’s intuition
Sixth sense
Gut instinct”







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Optimista empedernida y ojalá contagiosa! Lo mejor de este año :)

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Como consecuencia de todos los eventos Extra-Ordinarios que han ocurrido este año y en los que no pienso enfocarme en detalle en este escrito, se han dado otros espacios y otros tiempos para cada persona.

Solo puedo hablar sobre mi experiencia individual, pero estoy consiente que a nivel colectivo todos estamos viviendo algún tipo de transformación y cada quien la ha tomado como mejor puede según sus herramientas y su actitud.

En lo personal, decidí después de mucho pensarlo, cancelar la subscripción en el gimnasio la cual he tenido por los últimos 7 años. Este es tal vez de los cambios mas grande que he tenido en mi día a día, ya que iba con bastante constancia y era una de las actividades que mas amaba de mi rutina, ir a las clases en grupo que ofrecían, por nombrar algunas, zumba, body attack, body pump, yoga, barre, etc. Los profesores son realmente espectaculares y la energía en el cuarto siempre te hacía subir tus niveles de energía, por cansado o desmotivado que te sintieras, nunca me arrepentí de ir a una clase en el gimnasio. Y se llego la gran Pausa! Y en este momento no es una opción ir a clases en grupo en lugares cerrados, y por fin pude soltar la ilusión, con algo de nostalgia, pero pensando que los cambios siempre tienen su lado amable y traen sus cosas buenas!

Llevamos alrededor de 5 meses desde que el bichito cambió casi todas las dinámicas de este planeta, y bueno aprendí a hacer zumba usando zoom, aprendí y me gocé varias clases de ejercicios en instagram, aprendí a caminar y a usar mis piernitas y mis pies para recorrer distancias largas, que antes ni me imaginaba caminar. Obviamente sigo prefiriendo actividades análogas a las que son por zoom pero si es lo que hay me acomodo. O me estoy buscando otras formas, por ejemplo me conseguí una cuerda para saltar y me ha encantado!

Me he gozado muchos podcasts y he podido practicar el auto cuidado. He descubierto muchos maestros por las redes que están compartiendo información sumamente valiosa y que he tenido la fortuna de recibir durante esta época. He tenido mucho más tiempo para Reflexionar, meditar, y conectarme con mi niña interior. He podido tener conversaciones más profundas con varios seres queridos y me encanta ver que con varios pareciera que estoy sincronizada en la misma onda. Desde el año pasado le había abierto espacio a mi lado creativo y este año me ha permitido darle más espacio y atención.

Hoy, con tantos aspectos en el mundo que están en proceso y que no sé con certeza como van a tomar forma se que siento la incertidumbre. Son grandes misterios que serán revelados en su momento. Hay elecciones muy importantes que vienen pronto en el país que vivo, las escuelas empiezan mañana de forma online, mi hija empieza su último grado de high school, etc, etc.

Además de incertidumbre, siento GRAN EMOCION! La vida tiene sus subidas y bajadas y esta época de “pausa” y de muchos cuidados también me ha traído muchísimos recursos y herramientas para atender y manejar la realidad actual, mi realidad actual. Ha sido un proceso bellísimo y siento inmensa gratitud por cada segundo experimentado. Namaste VIDA por tanto que nos das.

Book Review: Man’s search for meaning by Viktor Frankl.

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Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor E. Frankl

My rating: 5 of 5 stars


Que joya! What a gem! 👏🙌

A few highlights:

“Humor was another of the soul’s weapon in the fight for self preservation. It is well known that humor, more than anything else in the human make up, can afford an aloofness and an ability to rise above any situation, even if only for a few seconds.”

“The meaning of life differs from man to man and from moment to moment. Thus it is impossible to define the meaning of life in a general way. Life tasks are very real and concrete. They form man’s destiny, which is different and unique for each individual. No man and no destiny can be compared with any other man or any other destiny!”

“We who lived in concentration camps can remember the men who walked through the huts comforting other, giving away their last piece of bread. They may have been few in numbers but they offer sufficient proof that everything can be taken from a man but one thing: The last of human freedoms, to choose one’s attitude in any given circumstances, to choose one’s own way. “



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Reseña del Libro: El Monje que vendió su Ferrari by Robin S. Sharma

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The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari: A Fable About Fulfilling Your Dreams and Reaching Your Destiny by Robin S. Sharma

My rating: 4 of 5 stars


Trate de empezar el libro pero estaba tratando de terminar un rompecabezas de 2000 fichas y decidí escuchar la version de audiolibro. Me pareció mucho mejor porque era como una conversación de dos personas. El libro tiene buenos consejos, la felicidad no te la va a dar el dinero así acumules muchísimo. La felicidad y tu paz es algo interno y solo depende de ti, de tus acciones, de como te comportas y como vives tus momentos, de tu auto-cuidado y si te das tiempo y espacio para tus necesidades y para nutrirte física mental y espiritualmente, de como te relacionas, si eres una persona con valores e integridad o si quieres aprovecharte de otros y de sus circunstancias, de tu respeto con los demás, de tu respeto al tiempo y como te organizas, que contenido lees, que contenido ves en las redes y en los shows, que información dejas entrar a tu mente, que sentimientos y que pensamientos estas alimentando. Buena reflexión y charladita mientras armaba el rompecabezas! 🙂



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Las grandes ventajas de cumplir años!

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Hoy no es mi cumpleaños pero el tema es sobre tener más tiempo en este mundo terrenal. Hace poco en una reunion con amigos surgió la siguiente pregunta:

Si pudieras devolverte a alguna etapa de tu vida a cual te devolverías?

para ponerlos en contexto las personas reunidas están en sus 30’s y 40’s. Una amiga rápidamente dijo que ella se devolvería a la época del colegio como en la época de quinciañera. Para ella esa época fue maravillosa y dice que pasó buenísimo.

Otros amigos lo pensaron un poco más y dijeron que también por la época de los 18 0 19 si pudieran llevarse los conocimientos que tienen en este momento, pero en este ejemplo esa opción no esta disponible, o bueno si lo estuviera definitivamente también me devolvería, osea, quien no?

Yo lo pensé y la verdad no me gustaría devolverme a ninguna edad del pasado, con mucho estudio y practica para realmente estar en el presente, creo que ya he logrado tener esta vision mucho mas arraigada dentro de mi, y más ahora con la pandemia, trato de estar bien parada en el presente y en vivir el día a día, cada día con su afán.

Trato de no adelantarme, ni proyectarme mucho al futuro porque en este momento hay mucha incertidumbre y muchos cambios, y tampoco me sirve mucho irme para el pasado o aferrarme a recordar cómo eran las cosas antes.

Un ejemplo puntual con esto es el gimnasio! Llevaba por ahí 7 años yendo al gym con bastante regularidad, por lo menos 3 veces a la semana, y algunas semanas hasta 5 o 6 veces! Lo que mas me encantaba del gym eran las clases en grupo, no iba por las maquinas, iba exclusivamente a las clases en grupo y ya tenia identificadas varias clases en 2 sucursales del gym y ya sabia que profesores eran mis preferidos para las clases.

Bueno, ahora con la pandemia, el gym cerró, ya anunciaron que iban a declararse en banca rota, cerraron varios de sus locales, y les toco sacar a muchos de los profesores que no eran de tiempo completo, y solo dejaron a los que netamente dependían de las clases del gimnasio. Fue super triste, pero pues ya en mas de 90 días de la pandemia creo que me he re-adaptado a lo que no tengo disponible y he aprendido a rebuscarme que me pude funcionar por estos días, en resumen, a lo que cada día me ofrece y se vuelven posibilidades para ese instante. Hay muchas clases en instagram, o en youtube que he seguido y aunque no sea la misma experiencia me he acomodado y me han servido y eso me ha ayudado muchísimo, poder adaptarse a lo que hay, a las condiciones que tengamos, a los recursos que tenemos y con ayuda de creatividad, como nos podemos acomodar a lo que nos presenta cada día, le dicen resiliencia! Y uno va aprendiendo a ser más flexible a través de las experiencias mismas que vivimos. Si algo he aprendido es que he sufrido muchísimo cuando he sido muy rígida, demandante y exigente conmigo misma o con los demás.

Es muy cierto el dicho ese de más sabe el diablo por viejo que por diablo. Cuando era chiquita no entendía muy bien este dicho, pero ahora lo veo con muchísima claridad, y la verdad no me gustaría devolverme a ninguna época anterior. Lo pasado me trajo al hoy y lo agradezco, igualmente recibo agradecida y honrada el presente y doy gracias por cada cumple años que me regala el universo! Que pasen lindo día en el presente!

Solstice, Eclipse and Mercury retrograde, oh my!

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Although I don’t usually read the horoscope, sometimes I listen to Mia Astral on her stories and see what she says about the universe current mood. I haven’t done it for a while but when I found out about the eclipse and the solstice I tuned back in and then I discovered Mercury was in retrograde as well. So much happening out there that has effects down here! Some people get terrified but I being an optimist think whatever change is coming, since this year has been the year of changes, always brings something good even if we don’t see it right away.

Mia Astral gave some tips about the weekend, like no rushing to make big purchases or big decisions, and things like that. I think in general that is a good tip for anytime!

I was planning on having a very mellow weekend, maybe go for a walk or if the weather was nice go to the park for a bit and that was it but then I got an unexpected call on Friday, from a friend’s sister I haven’t really seen in like 20 years, she resurfaced on one of the social platforms about a year ago because she had moved to a town near the bay area, as she had reconnected with an old boyfriend and they were giving their relationship another go, she came with her kids from a previous marriage just to give you a better picture of the situation, 2 kids under 10.

About a year went by, we didn’t really talk often but they did come out last fall to the city and we hanged out during a weekend, then last Friday I got the call, and she was in need. She wanted to see if she could stay for one night with her kids as she had to leave the area and her flight was from SFO, very late on Sunday night, the red eye, someone she knew was going to give her a ride to my place, she said they had broken up. The call was short and she said she would tell me later in person what had happened, of course I told her that was fine and I would take her to the airport. They came out Saturday night, to say the least she looked terrible, very thin and sad, anxious, and crying on and off, she is going through a lot of chaos, I am glad I was able to give her a hand, going through a split is rough, and a lot harder with kids etc, it’s a lot to juggle. She didn’t want her family to know back in the motherland, she had only told 2 of her siblings, the one that was waiting for her on the east coast, and another one back home. During her stay here she told her mom and she cried but it was probably a good thing.

Her family is helping her so she knows she has support, she needs to perk up, I know it is a very foggy moment and the thinking is not clear at all.

The airport part was very stressful, they had 3 suitcases completely full, 2 of them over the weight allowance by 13 pounds each, she started taking things out right there at the airport curbside and I kept thinking some of those airport traffic people would come to make me move the car. I think we were there over 30 minutes, she was trying to figure out what to leave behind, and I could tell the attachment was big. My stomach felt uneasy, as she finally was closing the last suitcase and we started say good bye, a police patrol pulled over right behind my car, they saw the kids and they saw us hugged, they got out of their car, but then they saw they were pushing the little kart with all the suitcases and I walked over to get in the car, and they turned and went back to their car, I think they were checking why there was a car parked at a terminal for so long, but thankfully I was just leaving.

She made it trough and finally she got to her brother, so thankfully all went well on this small part of her journey. I was exhausted, so I can only imagine she is like a thousand times more exhausted. I am hoping she can get her ducks in a row and soon! And that she takes care of herself!

My weekend was not mellow at all, but life works in mysterious ways! I feel the worst is behind her, and now she can re focus and have a new start once again, she has gone through a few. Praying to all the angels for collective wellness and for good energy to flow! 🙏

A case of the Mondays…

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I am an early bird, usually up around 6 am, or even before, sometimes between 5 and 6. I like, although sometimes I am a bit jealous of my kid, who can sleep for hours and hours easily! I do love my sleep time, we all need our beauty sleep to function properly, it’s the best way to restore anything not working well in your body! SLEEP is super important, so is exercising or physical activity, you have ti find the balance… which is the hardest thing to do… find the middle of the path. Not to much to the left, not to much to the right… you could fall of the edges.

This am, I was in a very nice deep sleep, and all of the sudden, at a very ungodly hour, someone was at the door of the building where I live, ringing all the buttons to all the doors. I think it was maybe 4 am, or something like that, it startled me and I got scared… I was wide awake for a while and I kept listening in case any door was opened or if I could hear anything else, I was scared to check downstairs by myself so I decided to stay put. I eventually fell back asleep and started ti have strange dreams that I can’t remember now. Then it was almost 6 am and the door bell was ringing again, not for my apt, but I could hear it for some other unit. I found one of my neighbors number on my phone and I decided to text him and see if he was awake, he said he was and that he had reported the situation to the police and that someone will come and check. We arranged to meet at the hallway to go and check downstairs. We found a somewhat distressed woman who was outside, I didn’t want to go outside so we just stood inside the building, she saw us and we saw her, but we didn’t exchange words. Another neighbor showed up and we agreed we should have everyones number in the building just in case, we exchanged numbers and I went back to my apt. Later on I got a text from my neighbor saying the police arrived and she was asked to leave, and she did, apparently she was trying to get directions to downtown… I hope she finds her way, because she seemed really lost, disoriented and homeless, not sure if she was on drugs but she was definitely off. I got super scared and now I feel tired and I think I will need lots of tea today! At least I got some writing done and it’s only 8:30 am! 🙏