Doña Consuelo…. Not!

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Desde que la pequeña V empezó a viajar a la Madre Patria a la tierna edad de los 5 años y medio, siempre me toca ir al consulado con su papá a sacarle el permiso del menor para que pueda salir del país. Resulta que en el consulado trabaja una señora muy querida, que gracias a Dios ha estado ahí desde hace muchos años. Yo siempre le digo doña Consuelo, pero hace poquito me di cuenta que no se llama así! Es más, el nombre empieza por M! Osea, yo estaba más perdida que embolatada con el nombre de ella, que PENA!

La verdad, yo creo que yo le puse Consuelo, porque para mí es un CONSUELO enorme verla a ella en esa oficina! Siempre con su trato amable, su sonrisa (antes de los tapabocas) y bueno, en general su excelente servicio al cliente!

La peque que ya no es tan peque, está ya próxima a ser mayor de edad, y pues gracias al todopoderoso no tendremos que estar haciendo mas permisos de salida del menor! Ahora la vuelta de V es la de sacar su documento que la reconoce como adulto mayor de edad, pero ya ella se puede encargar de sus cositas! Aleluya!!!

A Doña Consuelo, o Señora M, mil gracias por toda su atención durante todos estos años. Le deberían dar el premio de Empleada del Mes, o del Año y mínimo una oficina con ventana esquinera, por el gran consuelo que da a los que llegan a esa oficina!

Personal Capital Tool!

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As I get older… I am trying to learn a lot more about personal finances, which involves so many fields and it’s so personal, since it depends on each person situation and life goals.

I have been reading blogs, watching some videos, and I still have lots of learning to do, questions to be answered and there are quite a few bullet points on my list with status as: TBD, to be determined with certain aspects of my life, but I am taking it day by day, slow and steady!

It’s good to be aware that the clock is ticking and as we get older we will need to be super organized (hopefully) for that phase called retirement, and whatever it means to each of us. I guess in my case I would like to know I will be safe and I will have my needs covered… right now I don’t know if I will be able to reach those goals but I am for sure trying.

In one of the forums I read, someone recommended this tool, it’s cool to see how people talk about their financial journeys, and they show graphics from when they were deep in debt, to where they are now, a few years later, after “awaking”, they have a better handle of their money and are putting the effort and the discipline to turn their situation into positive.

I recently discovered this tool to help me get more organized and if you sign up, we can both get a bit of $. They also offer you a free consultation with one of their specialists, but you can cancel if you don’t want to talk to them, they could give you some good insights but don’t let anyone pressure you into something. Do your homework and your research and asses your situation!

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Excuse me, coming through! att: SPRING!

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Today is the Spring Equinox and is a wonderful day! It’s also the new year for some cultures and it makes a lot of sense! Just looking around it feels so much more natural that a new fresh beginning starts on the day the hours of light are equal in the northern and southern hemisphere, and this is what the equinox is, and then it happens again in the fall!

From a quick search, The Iranian New Year (Nowruz, No-Ruz, No-Rooz, or No Ruz) occurs on the March equinox, in accordance with the Persian calendar. It has been celebrated for over 3000 years and is rooted in the traditions of Zoroastrianism. No-Ruz celebrations last for about 12 days. WOW, 3000 years… let’s think about that, and lasts for 12 days! Sounds so much more fun… I am going to celebrate spring and international day of happiness and to my friends that celebrate with the Persian Calendar, Happy Nowruz to you too!

Spring is so beautiful! It’s when the butterfly is finally out of her cocoon and can spread her wings wide and fly away! The energy shifts and the light feels so good! I think growing up by the equator it was easy to take for granted since we had the same light most days, and we got plenty! Here in the bay area, I have such appreciation for long sunny days, but I know the other seasons have their charm too!

Photo taken on my walk near Noe Valley, SF.

I am grateful for it all, and the best thing of going through them, is that each of their cycles remind us that everything comes to an end!

There is actually a salsa song in Spanish by Hector Lavoe and Willie Colon and the chorus says, todo tiene su final, nada dura para siempre! Which translates, Everything has an end, nothing lasts forever!

We are so lucky to live the present, because it’s guaranteed it won’t last forever, so I am trying to remind myself daily that all I have is the NOW and I should try to enjoy each second, but I know sometimes and depending on the life situations it’s easy to lose focus and get distracted and worried so much. I wish there was a class to learn about accepting mortality since we are little, but really theree isn’t such a thing or at least the way I grew up, and after the pandemia, I can tell we were all so scared of transitioning!

But maybe just maybe it’s not so bad…? I am reading this book about people that have transitioned to the other side, and how this lady who is a medium, it’s used as a channel by these souls that have gone to the other side and they send messages to their loved ones that are still on this side of the realm, for a lack of a better word! I love this concept!

Have you watched SOUL, the new Disney movie? It’s cute, grown up, and I think it has so many messages.

I think because I am reading the book, and I am aware that we can connect somehow with the souls we have loved and not here in person anymore, I had a dream with my grandparents recently, and my lovely aunt that passed so young, and it was so lovely to see them in my dream. I would dream with them from time to time when they first traveled to the next place, but I hadn’t had a dream in a while and I always wake up so happy that I got to see them for a bit!

By the way, the name of the book is Signs, the secret language of the Universe, by Laura Lynne Jackson, and of course is a best seller and I guess she is very famous, but I knew nothing about her until now. In summary, the book says we can still communicate with our loved ones that have traveled away through signs.

Some signs can be super specific and detailed and only the 2 people in the relationship knew what they meant, but they were revealed to the medium. We transform in some other type of energy and even though we can’t see our people in person anymore, they are somewhere and they can give people advice or re-assurance that they are well in their new place!

In a sense, the book made me realize my grandparents, aunt and cousin who recently passed were done with their season here and have transitioned to a new season and I hope they can feel something similar to spring wherever they are, but maybe they don’t even need it because maybe it’s spring there all the time, or they move in a space where they feel happy and comfy and are beyond human senses, like being cold or too hot? I am not going to find out here I know, but maybe one day when I transition I will be able to report back to my loved ones that are not ready to go yet… wouldn’t that be something?

Have a lovely spring, here or there! Much love!

EDIT: Ok, so here is a little update, after I wrote this post, a notification popped in WordPress asking if I wanted to make this blog post into a podcast, I followed the prompts through Anchor.FM and this is now my first podcast ever, and I think is hilarious. I almost chose the preset-voices they offer to read your blog, but I thought it sounded too robotic and opted to record it with my voice instead, even if I had some mistakes and I am completely lacking any experience on this podcasting thing! I had a lot of fun making it even though I know it’s so amateur! 😛

EDIT 2: I encountered some glitches and replaying the episode found that the robotic voice was there. So I am trying to update this, but I am so new to the tool that I am trying to figure out how to go about this.

Thank you, Guardian Angel! 🙏🏼

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Last year I had to renew my driver’s license. I filled out the online form and submitted my info, and a few weeks later I had it in the mail. It came about 2 months before the old one expired so I decided to keep it in my desk drawer to keep it safe until needed.

The old license expired on my birthday, and that date came and went and I totally forgot about swapping the old license for the new one, and then came the holidays… and it is now Feb!

Today I went for a little walk to the botanical garden and is one of those places that is free for residents, so I got my license from my little wallet and saw I had the expired one! 😱

Thankfully because of the pandemic I was not using the car a lot, and thankfully the few times I did it was all good. It makes me think my guardian angel is so good! Or call it lucky stars but basically the same! Phew and feeling so thankful right now! ✨🙏🏼

Book Review: Untamed by Glennon Doyle. 🐆

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Untamed by Glennon Doyle

My rating: 4 of 5 stars


About 4 people mentioned this book so I looked it up. There are good insights and learnings that the author has had through her life and she shares some of that, and also some of her views about how society has brainwashed men and women and how we admire more what is strong and tough and less what is weak and emotional, and how she has learned through a lot of pain and hard decisions to get free from the system and what she was programmed with. She was able to follow her heart and manifest a new reality for her and her family. Some highlights:

“As every architect or designer knows, there is a critical step between vision and reality. Before imagination becomes three-dimensional, it usually needs to become two-dimensional. It’s as though the unseen order needs to come to life one dimension at a time.
May the invisible order become visible.
May our dreams become our plans”

“Our next life will always cost us this one. If we are truly alive we are constantly losing who we just were, what we just built, what we just believed, what we just knew to be true.”

“We can do hard things”

“I love myself now. Self love means that I have a relationship with myself built on trust and loyalty. I trust myself to have my own back, so my allegiance is to the voice within. I’ll abandon everyone else’s expectations of me before I’ll abandon myself. I’ll disappoint everyone else before I disappoint myself. I’ll forsake all other before I’ll forsake myself. Me and myself: we are till death do us apart.”






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Book Review: The course of Love by Alain de Botton

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The Course of Love by Alain de Botton

My rating: 4 of 5 stars


Great insights about romanticism and a good story as an example of one couple’s relationship and how it evolves through time.

Some highlights:

“You are my best friend and I want to know and come to terms with your mind in all its weird byways. I will never be able to do or be everything you want, nor vice versa, but I’d like to think we can be the sort of people who will dare to tell each other who we really are. The alternative is silence and lies, which are the real enemies of love!”


“we don’t need to be constantly reasonable in order to have good relationships; all we need to have mastered is the occasional capacity to acknowledge with good grace that we may, in one or two areas, be somewhat insane.”

“Children may end up being the unexpected teachers of people many times their age, to whom they offer – through their exhaustive dependence, egoism, and vulnerability- and advanced education in a wholly new sort of love, one in which reciprocation is never jealously demanded or fractiously regretted and in which the true goal is nothing less than the transcendence of oneself for the sake of another.”

“Children teach us that love is, in its purest form, a kind of service. They teach us to give without expecting anything in return, simply because they need help badly -and we are in a position to provide it. “

“The child teaches the adult something else about love: that genuine love should involve a constant attempt to interpret with maximal generosity what might be going on, at any time, beneath the surface of difficult and unappealing behavior.”

“It’s not just children who are childlike. Adults, too, are -beneath the bluster- intermittently playful, silly, fanciful, vulnerable, hysterical, terrified, pitiful, and in search of consolation and forgiveness.”
“It’s a wonderful thing to live in a world where so many people are nice to children. It would be even better if we lived in one where we were a little nicer to the childlike sides of one another.”
“If parental kindness were enough, the human race would stagnate and in time die off. The survival of the species hinges on children eventually getting fed up and heading off into the world armed with hopes of finding more satisfying sources of excitement. In their moments of coziness, when the whole family is piled together on the big bed and the mood is one of tolerance and good humor, Rabih is aware that someday, in the not too distant future, all of this will end according to an edict of nature enacted by a most natural means: the tantrums and fury of adolescence. The continuation of families down the generation depends on the young ones’s eventually losing patience with their elders. It would be a tragedy if the four of them still wanted to lie here with with their limbs enlaced in another twenty-five years’ time.”

“An avoidant attachment style is marked by a strong desire to avoid conflict and to reduce exposure to the other when emotional needs have not been met. The avoidant person quickly presumes that others are keen to attach them and that they cannot be reasoned with. One just has to scape, pull up the drawbridge, and go cold. Regrettably, the avoidant party cannot normally explain their fearful and defensive pattern to their partner, so that the reasons behind their distant and absent behavior remain clouded and are easy to mistake for being uncaring and unengaged -when in fact the opposite is true: the avoidant party cares very deeply indeed, it is just that loving has come to feel far too risky.”

“Love is a skill, not just an enthusiasm.”

“Few in the world are ever simply nasty; those who hurt us are themselves in pain. The approrpiate response is hence never cynicism nor aggression but, at the rare moments one can manage, always love.”

“What has conveniently looked like a single relationship in fact sits across so many evolutions, disconnections, renegotiations, intervals of distance and, emotional homecoming that he has in truth gone through at least a dozen divorces and remarriages -just to the same person.”
“The romantic ideas are, a recipe for disaster, he is ready for marriage because -to being the list- he has given up on perfection. Pronouncing a lover “perfect” can only be a sign that we have failed to understand them.”

“We were all (necessarily) less that ideal parented”

“Choosing a person to marry is hence just a matter if deciding exactly what kind of suffering we want to endure rather than of assuming we have found a way to skirt the rules of emotional existence.”

“Enlightened romantic pessimism simply assumes that one person can’t be everything to another”
“There can only ever be a “good enough” marriage”

“He is ready for marriage because he is prepared to love rather than be loved.”
“The partner best suited to us is not the one who miraculously happens to share every taste but the one who can negotiate differences in taste with intelligence and good grace.”









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Book Review: The Power of Kabbalah: 13 Principles to overcome challenges and achieve fulfillment by Yehuda Berg

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The Power of Kabbalah: 13 Principles to Overcome Challenges and Achieve Fulfillment by Yehuda Berg

My rating: 4 of 5 stars


Re-read this book just now and I got a much better understanding. There is a lot to take from this little book and I feel I have done sufficient progress on my personal work in the last 2 years to get a better sense of the Kabbalah principles. This does not mean I am an expert as I realize there is a lot of work I need to continue to do and there is a lot of learning ahead.

Some notes:

“Love your neighbor as you love yourself”
“Those who embrace spiritual transformation – moving from reactive behavior to proactive- will dwell in a bubble of serenity, even though the world around them might collapse into rubble and ruin. The choice is ours”

“Ask a friend or someone you trust: Do you see a pattern where I repeatedly tend to get in my own way?”

“There is a law of cause and effect in this universe. What we put out is what we get back. “
“Any action, kind or unkind, sets in motion a chain reaction of effects”
“Those who dance were thought to be quite insane by those who could not hear the music – Angela Monet”
Desire is the essential quality of human nature>think of a newborn.

There is the 1%, our reality, and the 99%, a dimension in which we can initiate positive lasting change that also manifests in our 1% world.

We live in the classical world where everything seems normal, everything has shape, place and substance. However, at very small scales, the quantum world reigns and everything is strange and bizarre, defying common sense~ Professor Stuart Hameroff, MD.

“Dreams, visions, intuition, these are all moments of connection to the 99% realm where all information, wisdom, energy, fulfillment and light exist. Plato called this connection divine madness. Philosopher Nicholas of Cusa called it divine revelation. Mozart described it as a rush. Philosopher and Mathematician Edmund Husserl called it pure intuition. We call it:
A mother’s intuition
Sixth sense
Gut instinct”







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Optimista empedernida y ojalá contagiosa! Lo mejor de este año :)

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Como consecuencia de todos los eventos Extra-Ordinarios que han ocurrido este año y en los que no pienso enfocarme en detalle en este escrito, se han dado otros espacios y otros tiempos para cada persona.

Solo puedo hablar sobre mi experiencia individual, pero estoy consiente que a nivel colectivo todos estamos viviendo algún tipo de transformación y cada quien la ha tomado como mejor puede según sus herramientas y su actitud.

En lo personal, decidí después de mucho pensarlo, cancelar la subscripción en el gimnasio la cual he tenido por los últimos 7 años. Este es tal vez de los cambios mas grande que he tenido en mi día a día, ya que iba con bastante constancia y era una de las actividades que mas amaba de mi rutina, ir a las clases en grupo que ofrecían, por nombrar algunas, zumba, body attack, body pump, yoga, barre, etc. Los profesores son realmente espectaculares y la energía en el cuarto siempre te hacía subir tus niveles de energía, por cansado o desmotivado que te sintieras, nunca me arrepentí de ir a una clase en el gimnasio. Y se llego la gran Pausa! Y en este momento no es una opción ir a clases en grupo en lugares cerrados, y por fin pude soltar la ilusión, con algo de nostalgia, pero pensando que los cambios siempre tienen su lado amable y traen sus cosas buenas!

Llevamos alrededor de 5 meses desde que el bichito cambió casi todas las dinámicas de este planeta, y bueno aprendí a hacer zumba usando zoom, aprendí y me gocé varias clases de ejercicios en instagram, aprendí a caminar y a usar mis piernitas y mis pies para recorrer distancias largas, que antes ni me imaginaba caminar. Obviamente sigo prefiriendo actividades análogas a las que son por zoom pero si es lo que hay me acomodo. O me estoy buscando otras formas, por ejemplo me conseguí una cuerda para saltar y me ha encantado!

Me he gozado muchos podcasts y he podido practicar el auto cuidado. He descubierto muchos maestros por las redes que están compartiendo información sumamente valiosa y que he tenido la fortuna de recibir durante esta época. He tenido mucho más tiempo para Reflexionar, meditar, y conectarme con mi niña interior. He podido tener conversaciones más profundas con varios seres queridos y me encanta ver que con varios pareciera que estoy sincronizada en la misma onda. Desde el año pasado le había abierto espacio a mi lado creativo y este año me ha permitido darle más espacio y atención.

Hoy, con tantos aspectos en el mundo que están en proceso y que no sé con certeza como van a tomar forma se que siento la incertidumbre. Son grandes misterios que serán revelados en su momento. Hay elecciones muy importantes que vienen pronto en el país que vivo, las escuelas empiezan mañana de forma online, mi hija empieza su último grado de high school, etc, etc.

Además de incertidumbre, siento GRAN EMOCION! La vida tiene sus subidas y bajadas y esta época de “pausa” y de muchos cuidados también me ha traído muchísimos recursos y herramientas para atender y manejar la realidad actual, mi realidad actual. Ha sido un proceso bellísimo y siento inmensa gratitud por cada segundo experimentado. Namaste VIDA por tanto que nos das.

Book Review: Man’s search for meaning by Viktor Frankl.

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Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor E. Frankl

My rating: 5 of 5 stars


Que joya! What a gem! 👏🙌

A few highlights:

“Humor was another of the soul’s weapon in the fight for self preservation. It is well known that humor, more than anything else in the human make up, can afford an aloofness and an ability to rise above any situation, even if only for a few seconds.”

“The meaning of life differs from man to man and from moment to moment. Thus it is impossible to define the meaning of life in a general way. Life tasks are very real and concrete. They form man’s destiny, which is different and unique for each individual. No man and no destiny can be compared with any other man or any other destiny!”

“We who lived in concentration camps can remember the men who walked through the huts comforting other, giving away their last piece of bread. They may have been few in numbers but they offer sufficient proof that everything can be taken from a man but one thing: The last of human freedoms, to choose one’s attitude in any given circumstances, to choose one’s own way. “



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Reseña del Libro: El Monje que vendió su Ferrari by Robin S. Sharma

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The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari: A Fable About Fulfilling Your Dreams and Reaching Your Destiny by Robin S. Sharma

My rating: 4 of 5 stars


Trate de empezar el libro pero estaba tratando de terminar un rompecabezas de 2000 fichas y decidí escuchar la version de audiolibro. Me pareció mucho mejor porque era como una conversación de dos personas. El libro tiene buenos consejos, la felicidad no te la va a dar el dinero así acumules muchísimo. La felicidad y tu paz es algo interno y solo depende de ti, de tus acciones, de como te comportas y como vives tus momentos, de tu auto-cuidado y si te das tiempo y espacio para tus necesidades y para nutrirte física mental y espiritualmente, de como te relacionas, si eres una persona con valores e integridad o si quieres aprovecharte de otros y de sus circunstancias, de tu respeto con los demás, de tu respeto al tiempo y como te organizas, que contenido lees, que contenido ves en las redes y en los shows, que información dejas entrar a tu mente, que sentimientos y que pensamientos estas alimentando. Buena reflexión y charladita mientras armaba el rompecabezas! 🙂



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